I Don’t Have A Friend - I’m Ugly!
Hi friends,
Did you read about this guy? Tomohiro Kato, 25 years old who went on a rampage in Tokyo’s Akihabara district? He was swerved the vehicle into pedestrian, jumped out and slashed at random with a knife. If you did, you might also read how his perception about his life.
His failure to make friends with anyone and could not get a girlfriend makes him felt he was spurned by society. He was also worried about being fired from his job. Although he is a smart student, but the depression cause him unsuccessful entry to university like his other colleagues.
This is what I want to discussed here. How we handle failure! In NLP, we as a practitioners believe that we never fail, but its only a feedback. This philosophy that guide us when we are having problems or issues at any stage of our life. We never let the negative emotions guide us into wrong decision or direction. Remember that, the negative emotion will only lead us into wrong direction. Look at this guy!
The stressful moment and frustration caused not only his own life (he might get death sentences for his crime) but also life of innocent people. Take this as a lesson for us. Get rid of any negative emotions and install the positives.
I would like to share with you my own experience. After reading about Kato - I felt very regretful its not happen to me. I have the same fate as his - graduated from the best university in my country with a good grades compare to others, but could not secure the dream job. All my friends have landed with the dream job with a nice office and expensive salary. They also getting married to husband from the group of people. At that time, I thinks its was a failure! I can only got the clerical job and not even have any boyfriend. I was so sad and depressed! I lost contact with all my friends…
My brother gave me motivation book to light me up. I found something that really change my life. I change they way I look at myself. I am too associate with myself until the negative feeling become more strong everyday. What I did is to dissociate from my body. I look from outside of my body and analyze what I did wrong and how to correct it. I saw low self confident person inside myself that I need to get rid off. To make correction, I read more self motivation books, read about successful people and make new friends. The results - who I am now.
Now I am key person in my company, working as Assistant Manager of the business development group that need me to meets lot of people. Something that I will not dare to do before -’meeting new people‘. Life also so beautiful when I got married with loving and understanding husband and blessed with a son and another will be coming this September. The best parts is we are on our way to achieve our dreams as an entrepreneur and millionaires. We have big dream waiting for us.
As a conclusion, its not what we get from our life bring us down or up. Its about what we can do to bring ourself out from the difficult moments. What we can learned from the experience, shape up our future and only God knows what He have for us in returned.
As a recommendation, this is the right book who written by author who change himself from bad to good. You might want to learn how he changed from school dropout to youngest self-made millionaires. Compare how from failure, his turns his life into best selling author. Get his book ‘Master Your Mind, Design Your Destiny’ which was the second highest selling book in Singapore in 2004, was on the best-sellers list for 36 consecutive weeks.
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